Being on a healing journey means almost always being in the process of learning something new about your life. Since I started this journey eleven years ago, I've been in so many different healing stages like dismantling my faith, divorce, healing from being widowed and so much more. This stage I'm in right now should probably be called learning how to chill the fuck out in my daily life, and enjoy.
I had a moment maybe a month ago where I realized I have arrived at the life I wanted to create for myself on a whole new level, and it's time I learn to enjoy it instead of always thinking, what's next, working harder, and plowing forward. I am a forward moving person so that will always be part of who I am and how I do my life, but also, it's important that if I worked hard to create something, that I enjoy it.
I have a good lifestyle. I do sessions most days, and I also have a lot of free time to write my novels, and spend time with friends, and to have quality time with my boyfriend, and move slowly about my life. I enjoy exploring Houston, visiting my kids in Utah, and hopefully making plans for more big travel in the future. It's a life that is both quiet and full of adventure. I never thought I could ever be at a place like this in life, but here I am. That said, after all the work it took to get here, I have a hard time trusting peace and safety, or even knowing what that feels like. That is my journey now.
Here are the three things I'm doing to learn to trust peace and safety and to chill the fuck out in my life and enjoy:
1.) Paying attention to the daily details of living, and feel how good it feels:
There is so much pleasure in a cup of morning coffee, in walking in the summer heat to the mailbox, in writing this in bed, in hearing my boyfriend in the living room listening to videos and laughing, in my cat being curled up napping at my feet. I am learning to stop what I'm doing often during the day and notice all the things around me and how usually it's beautiful and nice, and to tell myself I'm safe to enjoy it. Then I wait until I feel safe enough, and lean into it and how good it feels. I often take out my phone and take photos of those moments to remind me how pretty the regular life is and how good it feels when I allow myself to feel into it. The photos in this post are some of those pictures I take while I'm going about my life and notice how nice the regular stuff is. It's how I work to reset my nervous system default setting from scanning for danger and being on high alert, to feeling that I'm okay and safe and things are even often quite nice.
2.) Breathe:
Breath is one of the most powerful ways to reset your nervous system, and you do it 24/7 anyways, so might as well, even for a few minutes here and there, be mindful, and purposeful about it. I breathe in whatever it is I want to breathe in at the moment: peace, love, joy, whatever I feel like, and breathe out what I want. Sometimes I breathe out what no longer serves me, but sometimes I breathe out peace, love and joy into the world, so I have it inside me and outside me. I never force myself to spend much time doing this, just a few minutes here and there to reset. I am neurodivergent and I know that it might be different for me than for a more neurotypical person to take time to breathe, so I just do what works for me with no pressure. Sometimes I need more and sometimes I need less, I just let myself decide what I want and do that much.
3.) Morning Pages:
I started doing the Artist's Way program with a group of women last October, and morning pages is one of my favorite parts. I've kept up with it since then. That is when you start your day, as soon as you wake up, with free-writing three pages. I have found that it is the perfect way for me to check in and see what energy work I need for the day, and to do it. It is a great way to check in with myself to see how I'm feeling and what I need for the day in general as well. I can dump negative feeling when I want to, and express positive ones and just write whatever I want. It feels like taking out the trash, an emotional check in, and an energy work session for myself at the same time. All you need to do to do it is to just write three pages as soon as you wake up without thinking too much about anything, just brain dump and check in with yourself and see what comes up. There is no right or wrong, and no one need read them, nor should they. It's a sacred place just for you.
So those are three of the things I'm doing to help reset and relearn a new way of living and apprecating where I am in my life right now. What things help you apprecate what you have in your life now? What things help you be in the moment? What things bring you pleasure in the daily act of living?
Daily energy work is a very important part of all of these steps for me. It helps me clear out blocks to peace, and check in with myself, balance my energy, set positive intentions for the day and for larger goals. It helps me be in my own personal power and take action in ways that can have positive effects today and down the road.
I am infusing this post with healing energy for you, so when you read it you can receive energy to help you be present in your life in a pleasurable way. You need not do anything to receive the energy, but just allow it.
If you have a hard time enjoying the moment or feeling at peace in your daily life, or even if you are good at it, and want a regular practice to help maintain and deepen it, it might be time to get some energetic support. I offer energy work sessions, card readings, and more to help you improve your quality of life and enjoy the moment, because life is richer when we can chill the fuck out and enjoy.
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